If you’re going to get into a sugar relationship, you have to know the rules going in. Part of that comes in defining what rules you will adhere to with your sugar daddy (or mommy, in some cases). Learning how to be a sugar baby online is easier than you think, thanks to the amass of resources out there today. You can find articles, guides, and even lessons and lists of sugar baby rules that you want to keep in mind to ensure that you have the best chances of success.
Of course, each relationship will be a little different—usually, the two people involved will sit down and discuss their own terms and rules before anything happens. A lot of the early days will be mixed with logistics conversations as much as fun flirting. It’s important to know what you want and keep everyone on the same page.
Let’s start by reassuring you that becoming a sugar baby isn’t all that difficult as long as you know what you’re getting into. And in that vein, let’s take a look at nine rules that will keep your sugar relationships sweet and ensure that you get everything that you want.
How to be a sugar baby online?
Rule #1: Know the Basics
The basics can teach you a lot about being a sugar baby. Don’t overcomplicate things. Look up the simple sugar baby rules (like those listed here) of being in a sugar relationship. That will help you get in the door on the right foot and ensure that you don’t get in over your head.
Rule #2: Find Your Sugar Persona
This isn’t to say that you should make up a new personality. There’s just a side of you that you’re exposing when you turn to sugar dating, and that side needs to be let out. Consider what type of sugar baby you want to be and what type of sugar daddy (or mama) you’re looking for. That will help you define a persona.
Don’t change yourself too much or develop an identity that’s completely different than your actual personality. That’s going to cause a lot of problems and often comes off as fake. Be you, but be the version of you that is a sugar baby. Not the one that runs the meetings and lays down the law in the office.
Rule #3: Know Where to Look for Sugar Daddies
Depending on the type of sugar daddy you have in mind, you’ll have a variety of places that you can look to find them. There are dating websites specifically for sugar arrangements or you can even try your luck on a site like Tinder. Just make sure that you’re clear about what you’re looking for so that you don’t mislead anyone. [Read: What is a Mutually Beneficial Relationship]
Rule #4: Be Honest, Always
There’s no reason to lie here. You’re engaging in a relationship that could be a lot of fun. If you are lying or trying to hide things, the fun becomes complicated. Just be upfront and find people that share your interests and desires to have sugar relationships with. That way, there will be nothing to worry about and no stories to keep track of.
Rule #5: Decide if You’ll Have a Virtual or Physical Relationship
Thanks to the Internet, some sugar babies and sugar daddies have relationships that are totally virtual—online chat, pictures, and even video calls can do a lot for people who want to have a little fun on the side. During the pandemic, it became a haven for anyone who wanted to have a good time without having to risk their exposure to COVID-19.
If you do want to have a “real-life” relationship with your sugar daddy, make that known when you’re searching for people so that you don’t get involved with someone who has no intentions of ever meeting. [Read: How to Get a Sugar Daddy to Give You Money]
Rule #6: Talk About Sex
It may surprise you to learn that not all sugar arrangements involve sex. Some of them only involve a certain amount of sexual experience and that’s after an extended period of talking or dating. Other relationships may have a heavy focus on the physical. In any case, you need to have that discussion upfront so that everyone is on the same page. You don’t want to go into this thinking one thing and then finding out that your sugar daddy has different expectations.
Rule #7: Talk About Everything
For that fact, you need to talk about everything with your partner in a sugar relationship. Of course, don’t bring them your moral dilemmas about cheating (if you’re having an affair) or taking their money—it’s the nature of the arrangement. However, you should talk about the details of the arrangement so that everyone can get the relationship that they want. There’s no sense in wasting anyone’s time.
Rule #8: Be Confident in Your Wants and Needs
Some sugar babies tend to be shy and timid, which is cute in the right places. However, when it comes to setting up an arrangement and speaking your mind about what you want, it’s really important that you are confident in what you tell your sugar daddy or mama. Make sure that you are honest about your expectations and what you want from this arrangement. There’s no sense in lying because it just wastes everyone’s time. The relationship only works if it works for you. [Read: Guide to Find a Sugar Momma]
Rule #9: Be Prepared for an Eventual Ending
Everything ends eventually. If you’re going into a sugar relationship looking for forever, it’s probably less likely that you’ll find it. Many sugar daddies want short-term relationships or will eventually break things off and move on to something new and exciting. Life happens, and there are plenty of situations that can result in your sugar relationship coming to an end. Don’t deceive yourself about this or let yourself believe that it won’t end because being prepared can make that ending a lot less difficult.
These are just a few rules to keep in mind when you are getting involved in sugar dating. You’ll find that when you follow the rules, you can have a lot of fun in these kinds of relationships, no matter what you’re looking for.